I am a people watcher in every sense of that term. Whatever your lifestyle – I’m interested. I especially like to watch people that live nothing like me. I love to peak into someone else’s corner of the universe. I am always inspired and entertained by other people.
So if you’ve painted every piece of furniture in your home or your kids have never had a grain of sugar, you live full-time in an RV, are a missionary, a vegan, a Mormon, or you live off the grid – I’m intrigued. I read blogs by moms of children with fatal diagnoses, who have adopted many special needs children and moms who have their own disabilities that make parenting exceptionally hard.
I often hear moms comment on how certain blogs make them feel inadequate. Most comments center on how perfect someone makes everything seem. I just don’t see it that way. Maybe by the time you’re looking at the beginning of crows feet in the mirror, you’ve come to terms with the fact that there is no such things as ‘perfect’ and if it look like there is, someone’s about to have a psychotic break. Oh, I’ve seen that first hand too!
I am glad that people go out into the blogosphere to share their lives, talents, strengths and struggles. I see the posts as snapshots into a part or piece of their lives, not their whole lives. I’m grateful that someone else has figured out the copycat recipe for the Coffee Coolatta, logged 24 videos on learning to crochet, reviewed 10 apps to monitor your teens online, shared their financial plan to stay in their RV six months out of the year and how they chalk painted their dining room set – because I want to do some of it too! Most times when I think of something I want to have – a cleaner house, more patience, an early-morning routine – I look for a blogger who has it and has done it. When Dennis and I wanted to take a cross country RV road trip, you can bet we turned to the bloggers. Instead of envy – I ALWAYS ask how!!
If I spent my time on jealously instead of capturing the information on how they do it, I’m missing out, not them.
I’ve looked back over this blog to see what I’ve chosen to highlight – and it’s usually the high points. I love taking a tiny piece of my life, making the effort to snap a photo, and then hanging on to one wonderful facet of the day or week by memorializing it in blog form. I love expanding out the moment with the attached feelings and emotions to process these brief parts of my life. For myself, it is not an effort to make my life seem perfect (Dennis reminds me that it would be impossible to do that with our life) but an effort to remind myself – and you – that although life is not perfect – there are moments that are deliciously perfect.
Here’s my theory – I believe mothers, as a group, have been divinely imparted with all the knowledge necessary to get our jobs done. I know how to do a bunch of things well. You are probably nailing the things that I am not. I see it! I believe we have everything we will ever need – you might just need to turn to the mom next to you…
or the next blog over.
If you read a blog that you love – link it in the comments. If you have a blog you that grates on your nerves – send that to me too 😉