I have some flaws that make parenting particularly hard. Patience is not my strong suit, and I have a quick temper. I have a bad habit of saying things in anger and have been known to yell. As I work on finding better ways to handle situations that cause me the most problems, I have decided that one of the things I can do when I respond to my kids in a way that I wish I hadn’t is to apologize. When I realize what I’ve done, I take a minute to make a true apology. “I am sorry I lost my temper and yelled at you” or “It’s not true that you never pick up your clothes, I exagerrated” and “I am sorry I said &*$%”. I make a point of making eye contact, even asking for it, if necessary. I tell them I am sorry, and ask them to forgive me. They always say that I am forgiven. Sometimes it is a segway into deeper discussion about something more that is going on in our family and sometimes, it’s just over. There are always hugs.
Funny as it sounds, I hope to make heart-felt apologies a Costello Family tradition.